Spent more than half of her life feeling exceedingly lonely. She was taught from early childhood that she was not worthy to associate with others or to have privileges that other people enjoyed. As far as relationships were concerned, she was consistently treated as though nobody could ever want to be with her. Therefore, as an adult, she always felt like an onlooker as others conversed and enjoyed being with their friends.
Pat trained herself always to display a cheerful and positive attitude in public, but when alone she would torture herself emotionally with self-blame over things she said or didn’t say. Regardless of how friendly other people were with her and complimentary, she secretly discounted the validity of whatever they said. She was convinced that, if they really knew her, they would treat her very differently.
The source of strength that made it possible for her to survive self-destructive impulses was the fact that she had received Christ as her personal Savior. She had found verses in the Bible that told her that God had accepted her just as she was. Her faith in God gave her the strength she needed to stay alive each day. When I met her, she believed that God could deliver her from her loneliness, but she didn’t know how that could ever happen.
I was convinced that God had arranged our time together, and likewise, I trusted God for leading us to His answer to her despair. I consider our counseling time together as not just Pat with me in the room, but I give God the credit for leading us to a successful resolution of her problem.
Pat has enjoyed her deliverance for several years now. The book, A Lonely Heart Learns to Love, is her story. Her efforts in putting it together in this accurate and succinct manner very likely will be helpful to someone who might be suffering from loneliness, especially when that loneliness is based upon a strong, secret sense of personal deficiency and unworthiness. As a beacon signal from the point of destination serves to stabilize the flight of an airplane, so Pat’s persistent faith in God’s love and grace has stabilized her self-acceptance so that she is no longer inclined to feel “outside” with others as she once did. She now manifests the ability to love others whether or not they accept her. The self-maligning “dragon” is dead.
Maurice E. Wagner
Pat trained herself always to display a cheerful and positive attitude in public, but when alone she would torture herself emotionally with self-blame over things she said or didn’t say. Regardless of how friendly other people were with her and complimentary, she secretly discounted the validity of whatever they said. She was convinced that, if they really knew her, they would treat her very differently.
The source of strength that made it possible for her to survive self-destructive impulses was the fact that she had received Christ as her personal Savior. She had found verses in the Bible that told her that God had accepted her just as she was. Her faith in God gave her the strength she needed to stay alive each day. When I met her, she believed that God could deliver her from her loneliness, but she didn’t know how that could ever happen.
I was convinced that God had arranged our time together, and likewise, I trusted God for leading us to His answer to her despair. I consider our counseling time together as not just Pat with me in the room, but I give God the credit for leading us to a successful resolution of her problem.
Pat has enjoyed her deliverance for several years now. The book, A Lonely Heart Learns to Love, is her story. Her efforts in putting it together in this accurate and succinct manner very likely will be helpful to someone who might be suffering from loneliness, especially when that loneliness is based upon a strong, secret sense of personal deficiency and unworthiness. As a beacon signal from the point of destination serves to stabilize the flight of an airplane, so Pat’s persistent faith in God’s love and grace has stabilized her self-acceptance so that she is no longer inclined to feel “outside” with others as she once did. She now manifests the ability to love others whether or not they accept her. The self-maligning “dragon” is dead.
Maurice E. Wagner
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